Giving too much

I hear a lot of clients talking about how thinly stretched they are taking care of everyone else's needs. I never have time for myself, because I am too busy taking care of everyone else, they say. Although there might be a lot of validity to what they are saying, often that's not the whole picture. Those of us who are caretakers, will sometimes secretly prefer giving and caretaking to receiving. Receiving can feel too vulnerable, because it implies need and weakness. If this is you- practice receiving, even in small amounts and notice what feelings come up.

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